Why is my 14 year old grounded this weekend? Her mouth. And she is not the only one. Far from it.
Miss C. is currently into the dark, vampy nail polish - I was ordering some AVON for her and added a polish at a good price to the other things she requested. When I received the bottle it was not as dark as I expected but I figured she would be happy anyways. I did not tell her I was ordering this - I did it as a surprise.
Me: "Miss C., Come here for a minute"
Miss C.: "Why?"
Me: "I want to show you something"
Miss C. walks over and I point to the AVON.
Me: Happily "Let me know what you think."
Miss C. starts to open the boxes . 30 seconds later....
Miss C.: disgusted "What is this? This isn't BLACK!"
NOT the response I was expecting
Me: incredulous "What?"
Miss C.: with pure disgust "Is this BROWN?"
Me: 1/2 hurt and 1/2 angry "What are you, blind? No it is not brown!"
OK - not the right thing to say but I was pretty aggravated with her lack of gratitude.
Miss C.: Defensive "WTF?!"
Me: Shocked but quickly "OK, you are grounded. I won't tolerate that sort of language."
Miss C.: more defensive. "Well what do you expect? That was MEAN!"
Me: matter of fact like "I don't care. You are still grounded."
FLASH FORWARD 2 days
Miss C. walking in the door and through the living room after dance class
Me: casually "How was dance class?"
breezing by me.....
Miss C.: with attitude "Yah, sure"
OK, I should be the one saying "WTF". I mean seriously, WTF????
Yesterday I reminded Miss C. that she was grounded. She asked "Why?" of course. Selective memory. When I reminded her of these two conversations she gave me an excuse of having a falling out with one of her friends. This was of course a valid reason for being upset but not a valid reason for talking to me that way.
She tried to talk her way out of it, going as far as to call the first conversation "funny". Well I did not think it was funny. Naturally she was not happy about this as she was invited to a weekend sleep over. I knew that she would try talking me into it again but let it drop for the night.
Last weekend Miss C. was supposed to have a sleepover with another friend but that never came to fruition -the other girl was grounded for sassing back to her mom and dad. Today when Miss C. did not mention this weekend's planned sleepover , I knew something was up. When I finally asked her about it she said the sleepover was canceled. One of the girls had plans with her family and the other two were also grounded.
At least I am not the only one grounding my kid. Far from it apparently. Ah, the teen years.